The next time you think of a fetishism, don’t torture yourself by thinking that you are weird or that something is wrong with your brain. The reality is that sexual fetishes are more common than many think.
Even most of the time they do not even represent any physical or psychological problem. You only have to consult the Internet to realize that there are, for example, people who love leather, and many more who love obscene lingerie.
What are sexual fetishes?
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While sexual fetishes may seem strange, they are just as real as the sexual act itself. Medical science defines sexual or erotic fetishism as a sexual obsession with a non-living object or non-genital part of the body.
Therefore, a person may be attracted to and sexually aroused, to inanimate objects, or to a part of the body that is not usually considered sexual. The toes for example.
There are also other people who develop a fetish for a particular lifestyle. Especially the one in which he enjoys erotic role-playing games, such as bondage and sadomasochism.
Objects that commonly become a fetishist’s worship include women’s underwear, latex clothing, and rubber items. And while fetishism is present in both sexes, it is more common in men.
Why are sexual fetishes more common than you think?
Sexual fetishes are so common, that here at Dharma Massage we offer Fetish Fantasy Massage, for people who want to make their fantasies come true. It is a different way to enjoy a particular fetish combined with the benefits of erotic massage.
However, people with fetishes are often labeled weird or abnormal.
However, different investigations in this regard have shown that a large number of people have a tendency to fetishism, even if they do not admit it. As with sexual orientation.
That is, people may be biologically programmed to develop fetishism, and consequently have little or no control over such behavior.
An investigation published in the academic journal Journal of Sex Research, studied the sexual behavior of 1,000 adults in Canada. The results revealed that 44.5% of the participants experienced the need for some kind of fetishistic behavior.
On the other hand, 26.3% of the participants admitted to having practiced fetishism. It was also found that 30% of men found inanimate objects exciting. However, this behavior only affected 23% of women.
Sex fetishes are not disorders
Of course as long as that fetish makes people happy, and said behavior does not affect their lives, or that of their partners. In any case, it is important to understand that sex fetishists are normal people, like you or me.
It is certainly possible for this behavior to spiral out of control. A person may develop a compulsion to steal women’s clothing from other homes. Even if that fetish affects academic or professional development, then medical attention should be sought.
Also, sexual fetishes are not always related to shame and secrets. Many people seek to associate with people with a sexual fetish, as they find it something exciting.
For example, if your partner has a foot fetish, and you love to have your toes sucked. That is an ideal combination for both of you to enjoy your fetishism.
For most experts, sexual fetishism is considered as a variation of normal sexual behavior. This is clear unless the fetish involves the use of force, exhibitionism, or self-harm.
At what point does the sexual fetish become a problem?
Sex fetishes can become a problem when people are unable to interact healthily with their partners. These fetishists may like to spend time alone with their object of worship, even when they are single.
There are men who are obsessed with their partners’ shoes. Initially, it may seem somewhat harmless. However, it can escalate to a level where the man prefers to masturbate with footwear, rather than have intercourse with his partner.
The good news is that there are ways to handle such compulsive behavior, especially when it negatively affects the relationship. On the one hand, you can try to reduce dependency on the fetish, improving communication in the couple.
Sensory focus techniques can be used for this. Even couples can come to terms and incorporate the fetish into their activities. This in a controlled way and for a time limit.
They can also reserve these activities for certain days. In the event that the fetishist cannot become aroused without the adored object, therapy may consist of orgasmic reconditioning.
Even covert sensitization can also help increase arousal through normal stimuli.